When I began my own dating journey, it seemed I either needed to follow some strict formula to “get the guy,” or completely and wholly love myself until I could ever dream of having a successful relationship.
I felt called to a different conversation around dating in the digital age. One that prioritized self awareness and emotional maturity. One that took into account how the modern world has changed how we live and love. And THEN, from there, explore how we date, howe we love, how we co-create a life with another.
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How to survive the grey area of dating
There’s no next hang on the calendar. You’re feverishly analyzing every single text — the timing, the frequency, the substance. You want to have a conversation about where the other person’s head is at, but you’re afraid it will scare them away.
the real reason people keep ‘backups’ while dating
I didn't want to fall too hard or get too obsessed. That put me in far too vulnerable a position. And then, that internal voice of "You should probably start dating someone else…" bubbled to the top.
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What does it really all mean anyway? The larger what and the why of astrology and how we can use it as a tool to facilitate our own self knowledge.
REDEFINING OUR ‘TIMELINES’
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“I feel incredibly lucky to have found Clara at this point in my life. I had already started putting in part of the work with a traditional therapist a few years back, but I was incredibly drawn to Clara’s warmth, openness and intelligence. I learned more from her in a few short months than entire years in the past. The amount of clarity and new knowledge that I gained in my time working with her is pretty astonishing. Once I started putting the things we talked about into practice in the real world, I really saw the power of our work together.”
“Clara’s holistic approach to modern dating is a breath of fresh air and I absolutely love working with her. She’s helped shift my perspective, explore connections between dating and other areas of my life and own the steps to becoming the truest version of myself. I look forward to our sessions each week and am confident that she’s providing invaluable guidance on my journey to lasting partnership.”
“Smart, funny, boldly ambitious, honest, authentic, accomplished. That’s me. Oh, and did I mention, 40+ with a wicked inner critic — my ‘Mean Girl’ as I like to call her — that never shuts up and was totally running the show. That was before I started working with Clara. After stumbling upon this post, I emailed her an immediate SOS. It was time to get off the hamster wheel of broken relationships, convinced I would always be too much or not enough. Best decision ever. Clara’s informed, personalized approach has given me the tools to identify the negative self talk (my drug of choice) and faulty belief systems that have been holding me back for way too long. I finally understand that I am the author of my own story, and I’m learning to live into the life until now, I’ve only imagined. ”
“Clara is one of those coaches who clearly has the intelligence and coaching acumen to provide an incredible service — but it’s the enormity or unseen value she delivers that I most cherish. A seemingly simple conversation ignites a depth of awareness and awakening to blind spots unlike most people I’ve worked with.”
“Clara is a rare kind of person, an empathetic pragmatist with honed intuition. Her methodology is enhanced by years of reading, research, and deep engagement with the world —and it shows in the quality of her feedback. She doesn’t try to “solve” the problems I describe to her with boilerplate assessments. Clara’s power is that she offers alternatives I can truly believe in and use.”