Writing & Interviews
…we love to make excuses for our problems, especially by way of blaming circumstances supposedly outside of our control. Case in point: dating in NYC.
On our third date, he proposed something unexpected…
Gone were our days of haphazardly hooking up with guys and hoping they’d turn into husband material by morning.
When you're in one of those situations, it's easy to make excuses.
At the beginning of 2014, the relationship I thought would lead to marriage came to an end…
We view the profile of someone we like and see them out with other girls and think….does he like them? Is he attracted to them? Will he be attracted to me?
Stalking, in whatever form it takes, ultimately reflects an attempt at controlling the outcome of the date.
Your first few dates are great but the in between is agonizing.
In the words of Brené Brown, I was trying to "beat vulnerability to the punch," my rationale being that if I didn't become so attached or develop such high expectations, I wouldn't be as blindsided by hurt
Going over his Facebook profile and Instagram feed with a fine-tooth comb made me feel safer. I was convinced it would help me suss out answers to questions like: Will this person ghost
Maybe there's an awkward wave or embrace before the surrealism of being face-to-face (again) sets in
When clients pose questions like this, they’re generally looking for me to give them a…
Despite all the claims of impossibility, I was determined to meet people in person.
No one’s really talking about the hard but inevitable challenges that are inherent to building intimacy and connection in any relationship.
I was open to doing anything and everything I possibly could to not rock the boat, to not communicate my own needs, to not stare in the face of rejection, and most of all, to hold onto the hope that he.would.change.
Social media adds a real layer of complexity to breakups these days. Try as we might, it’s almost near impossible to escape it.
“We often think that by simply telling ourselves to ‘be more positive’ we can magically shift all of our emotions,” Clara Artschwager, a dating and relationships coach, told Girlboss. “But what we end up doing is guilting ourselves into good feelings. I should be more positive. I should be happier.” It doesn’t work.
“The past is especially buzzy right now — we’re all very concerned with how past events have affected us, with the damages or hurts we’re carrying around.”
For as long as I can remember, I associated being thin with being loved.
It's about being able to spot red flags way earlier on.